Good Friday and Why It Needed to Happen

I was talking with my dad yesterday about Holy Thursday.

“What does “Holy Thursday” celebrate dad?” I asked.

Having been raised Catholic, I used to have to go to all the masses leading up to the big Easter Sunday mass and celebration.  Honestly, I wasn’t too enthused about them, especially the three hour Good Friday mass.  Oh, that one was always so somber and soooo long!

“It’s to celebrate the Last Supper,” he replied, “where Jesus washed the feet of his 12 Apostles.  It’s also where the eucharist, the body and blood of Christ, comes from.”

“Oh…” I said.  “”What about Good Friday?  I always think of it as “black” Friday.”

“It’s not “black” Friday,” he said, “because it needed to happen (I was struck when he said this) so that Jesus could rise again.”  He continued, “You know what Sar (what he calls me at times), life can seem pretty dark sometimes, like you might not make it through.  But, with Faith and Trust, you keep moving and eventually you make it through those challenging times.”

I’m always humbled when my dad and I have an impromptu conversation like this.

I wrote about a time, many years ago, in a piece entitled Perseverance, where my dad gave me the great wisdom of someone whose been through it all:

“Keep looking for the light.  Usually, it’s just around the next corner.  The thing is, people often give up right before they get there.”

Somethings have to die in order to be reborn.  It’s a natural part of life.

Thanks for blessing me with your wisdom dad.

I hope this inspires you to keep going, to keep looking for the light, for surely it is there, it’s here, right inside you, around the next corner, in the next moment.

Love to you on this Good Friday.

Sarah

Salsa Dancing Insight 101 #1: Dancing to the Music

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I lay in savasana, otherwise known as “corpse pose,” after my yoga practice this morning and a thought ran through my mind:

“Should I tell that guy, whose a really great *lead, that he’s not actually dancing to the music?”

Suddenly, I imagined myself talking to him.  What would I say and how would I say it?

I don’t want to annoy him.  I don’t want him not to like me, but I want to be honest and be honest for him and me.

So this is what came through my mind:

“Can I tell you something?” I ask him politely.  He’s looking at me and does not respond in my minds image of this scenario.  I go on.  “You’re a great lead.  I mean, that’s awesome!  That’s, like, a huge part of this.  And, you’re not actually dancing to the music so I don’t know how to follow you.”

He’s still looking at me receptively, listening, not responding at all.

I go on.  “It’s like you’re dancing to a rhythm in your own head that I can’t hear and…”

That’s where the insight hit me.

The Music

We, as dancers, dance to the music.  It’s that common thread, that language, that connects us to each other and to the dance.  When a leader and a follower, in partner dancing, are connected to the music, dancing to it or allowing it to dance through them, they can experience a **synergy within themselves and in their partner dancing relationship, together, beyond what they could experience on their own.

OH MY GOSH!!!  This is IT!  That’s why the music is SO important.

It’s not even that we have to be dancing to music.  What matters is that we’re connected to something else, greater than ourselves, that is guiding us.  And, we’re connected by this thing together.

Recently, while teaching a salsa dancing class, I spoke to the students about the role of the music:

“The music is like God or a Higher Power, if you believe in one.  It is always there, moving through us, moving us to do things.  The music is like that.  It is always there and we are expressing it through our body movements.”

The music is dancing US.  

What’s possible when you can allow the music of life to dance you?
What area of your life can you see yourself connecting to “the music” of the situation?
How can you allow “the music” to move through you, connecting you with yourself, your partner, and all of life to experience a synergy beyond your wildest imaginings?
Write your comments below.  I want to hear what you have to say!
Thanks for being here, really!
Love,
 Sarah Haykel
*Lead: In partner dancing, the person who is responsible for guiding the follower through movements and patterns on the dance floor using certain techniques that are typically learned.
**Google Defintion:
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    the interaction or cooperation of two or more organizations, substances, or other agents to produce a combined effect greater than the sum of their separate effects.

Holding Onto Winter, Letting Go Into Spring

I know.

It seems so counterintuitive!

Earlier today, as I wrote on a little notepad with three snowmen, one with a heart in the center, I felt like I wasn’t ready to let go of this winter.

You see, this winter has been a doozy for me.

LOTS of learning, personal growth, transformation, elevation, uplifting, going to the depths of my self and my soul, and reaching, reaching higher, opening to more, and speaking my truth in ways I haven’t done before.

It’s been scary, sexy, opening, closing, cold, burr, beautiful, blissful, caring, sensual, connecting, enlightening, romantic, jazzy, juicy, spiritual, and more.

My mom and I got into a big fight, I had a fever on Christmas, I met a wonderful man and he and I both let each other go.  I started a new business with my twin sister to transform ourselves and the world, I sang more, I started a yoga teacher training, I do pranayama now, I get up early, I go to bed earlier, I met new people, I made amends with people I really love, I’ve started new relationships.

So much has happened this winter that I’m feeling a tug on my heart strings, a sadness in my throat, like it’s time to move on, to say goodbye to all this stuff and let it go, and that little girl in me doesn’t want to say goodbye, yet, to it all.

I lovingly notice her: not knowing what’s coming next, not believing it could ever be better than the best it ever was this year, not knowing how to be herself in the midst of all this uncertainty.

I say to you, little, dear, sweet Sarah, I say to you:

I love you

I am here

You are able to grieve this time

You are able to let it go

I love you

And you know what

I’m here now

I am here

Your best friend

Your big sister

I’m like your mom now!

And you know what?

The best is yet to come!

Sarah Haykel From Winter to Spring

 

Wishing you the best in this springtime transition!  Loving you from near and afar!

 

Sarah

Woe is Me Land

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Feeling sorry for myself.

Ugh, this is the WORST part of being me, I think.

It’s been one of those days.

I woke up this morning after a dream where a successful business mentor I know was showing me some cool sign in thing she did with her hands on my computer to bring up her special material on the laptop.

“Don’t worry, I will help you,” she said to me, as I looked at her puzzled, like, “How does she do that?”

This week I’ve even found myself feeling jealous of people who are out in the world living their dreams.

“What am I doing,” I ask myself.

“Could I be living a BIGGER dream?  Could I be in some sunny locale hanging out with the locals and living my dream too?”

Sure, I could be doing that.  And you know what the truth is?  I’m here, right now, in Buffalo, N.Y., living my dream:

Contributing to life in the best ways I know how

Learning how to grow and run a successful business

Having fun creating

Learning how I can contribute in the best ways possible where everyone’s lives are served in bigger and brighter ways

To be a Bringer of Joy to All of Life

This is a “North Star” or a “Guiding Intention” that came to me 3 1/2 years ago through a course called Feminine Power.

This principle’s been guiding me ever since.

Is that enough, to be a “bringer of joy to all of life?”

How does this pay the bills and supply me with financial stability?

How does this allow me to relax and peruse the French countryside on vacation with a loved one?

How does this manifest the greater contribution I’m giving to this world?

You can hear, I’m sure, the “woe is me” voice coming through right now.  That little girl whose still looking for her daddy to take care of her, for someone to notice her.  Yah, she’s grasping, reaching out for energy, any kind of energy.  In the past, this grasping and needing got me into a lot of unnecessary trouble with work, men, friends, and family.

This is honestly one of the most challenging parts of myself to deal with, to notice, and to hug and love when I do notice her.

Her energy is so strong, her patterns so embedded, that I’m down her path even before I realize it and then there goes that moment or the next several in “woe is me” land.

Do you struggle with feeling sorry for yourself?

Feeling like everything is against you?

Like you can never win?  Like it won’t ever work in your favor?

Like you can’t have the life of your greatest dreams?

Oh, this sucks, “woe is me land,” and…

there is a light at the end of THIS tunnel.

Because you know what, I can see her now.  This little girl in me.

I can see it now: the seductive energy of “woe is me.”

It’s not a bad thing, this, “woe is me.”  It was a way that I learned to be and it probably served me in many ways when operating in old relationship dynamics of the past.

Now, the truth is, I don’t need to feel sorry for myself any more.

I don’t need to pull on others energies or compare myself to others or look at others to judge whether I’m living my dreams. 

All I need to do is feel my feelings, listen to a higher power calling to me, trust the next guided step and go.  Take that next step, walk that way, this way and that, and trust, following my knowing and honoring mine and all others paths.

And, those judgments, comparing myself to others?  They may actually be there to support me to reassess and reevaluate my path.

Am I living my greatest life?

Do I want something different in my life right now?

How else could I be contributing?  Going about this business, this contribution?

There is no short cut to success.  There is no short cut to dreams.  I’m actually creating my dream right now, as I write to you.  I’m living my dream.  I’m contributing.  And, thank God, I always have a choice in who I want to be and how I want to be and how I will show up in life.  That’s where self-responsiblity comes in.  And that’s a whole OTHER topic!

For now, I welcome you little Sarah, the little girl who still feels that feeling sorry for herself is going to get her the attention she so desired and needed as a child.

I see you now.  I’m here, the grown Sarah, the adult.

And you’re with me now.  It’s all good.

And together we go on this path,

one step at a time.

Loving and Light Blessings, Sarah

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p.s. I am enough, and so are you!

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SOLD OUT!!! Spring into Spring with Sensual Body Movement for Women with Salsa Sarah

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Sarah Haykel teaching Salsa Shines at Elmwood Arts Festival 2012

April Session: SOLD OUT

Sign up for our May Session below!

Hey Momma~

I’ve been thinking about the Ladies Latin Styling class.

You know, it’s not just about Latin styling or dancing, it’s about how you FEEL in your body when you’re dancing and moving through life.  This is what’s actually important to me.

My Goal?  To support YOU to feel good, empowered, juicy, and at home in your body.  To express and embody the FULLNESS of who you are and BE in this life!  To support you to share this in a way that feels in integrity with your values and who you choose to be in this life!

So…I’m renaming the Ladies Latin Styling Class to Sensual Body Movement for Women.

Will we still be learning Latin dance?  

Yes.

Will there be other styles of dance and free form movement involved?

Yes.

Come join me for an incredible experience to get into your body and move through your life empowered, juiced up, and energized by the beauty you be!

Below are all the details:

Spring into Spring with Sensual Body Movement for Women with Salsa Sarah

Here are the dates listed below:

SOLD OUT: Mondays April 7th – May 12th, Sensual Body Movement for Women Class $120:

Please join us, taking enrollment for the next session now!  

Advanced registration highly recommended!

May 19th – June 30th

  • 7:00 – 8:30pm

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Ladies, you will experience:

  • Free form movement to music that spans the globe
  • Body isolations and how to move your body in ways that feel sensual, connected and good to you
  • Techniques in Body Centered Awareness: embodying yourself with breath as you move
  • Latin dancing steps and body movement from Salsa, Bachata, Merengue, Cha Cha Cha, Afro-Cuban Rumba and more
  • Stretching, warm ups and cool downs
  • Meditation and intention setting

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Details about Salsa for the Soul Classes:

  • 6 week sessions that build progressively each class
  • TO CONFIRM YOUR SPOT Click here to pay in full!
  • Cash payments are made in full at the first class of each session
  • Class passes are non-refundable and can be used for the session you signed up for or for the next 6 week session to follow.  After two sessions, they are null and void.
  • Classes start promptly at times listed above
  • Location: Configuration Dance Theater, 230 Lexington Ave, Buffalo, NY 14222.  Entrance on the Ashland side of the building.
  • Please bring a clean pair of smooth soled shoes to dance in and/or a comfortable pair of socks.  (No black or dark brown soled shoes with rubber bottoms that could scuff the floor.)
  • Wear comfortable clothing

PRE-REGISTER by emailing Sarah at salsaforthesoul@gmail.com now!

Space Limited-Register TODAY!

Location: Configuration Dance Studio 230 Lexington Ave. Buffalo, NY 14222, On the corner of Lexington and Ashland.  Entrance on Ashland

Salsa for the Soul Classes focus on teaching you how to:

  • Find and Feel the rhythm in Latin music
  • Dance in time with the music
  • Lead and follow with great technique so you can dance with anyone around the world!
  • Move your body in the style of Latin dancing
  • Solo with shines and fancy footwork during song breaks
  • Turn properly and with good technique
  • Feel your body and connect with your body so you feel good while dancing
  • Enjoy the feeling, rhythm and timing of Latin dancing
  • Have fun while dancing within yourself, with your partner and the world around you

I also encourage you to become a part of our Facebook community, a space where you will have access to interviews and posts about amazing Latin dance teachers and be able to connect with fellow salsa dancers.  Click here to like my Salsa for the Soul Facebook page and get connected!

More Info:

We teach L.A. on1 style of salsa dancing, Cuban style, and N.Y. Mambo on2 shines, which add more flare and flavor to your social dancing. 

Spring Fling Salsa Dance Classes with Salsa Sarah

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Salsa Sarah and Salsa for the Soul at Canalside sponsored by Hispanic Heritage Council of W.N.Y., Summer 2013
Photo taken by Travis Widrick

Join us for our NEXT Salsa for the Soul 6 Week Session!

We’re focusing on a syllabus style teaching method introduced by Edie “The Salsa Freak!!”, where moves build on each other.  We won’t be learning crazy combinations you won’t remember, but teaching you moves that are fun for the leader and follower!

Below are all the details:

Spring Fling Salsa Classes with Salsa Sarah: 6 Week Session

Here are the dates listed below:

6 Week Beginner & Intermediate Partner Salsa Class $85 (change in start time!):

Thursdays April 17th – May 29th (no class May 1st)

  • 7:00pm – 8:00pm

This is a mixed level class.  Beginners welcome to join.  Learn beginner and intermediate lead-able partner combinations plus advanced technique, styling, and musicality (how to hit the beats and musical variations in each song) that will take your dancing to the NEXT LEVEL!

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SOLD OUT: Sensual Body Movement for Women $120:

Sign up for the NEXT SESSION Starting Monday May 19th!

Mondays April 7th – May 12th

  • 7:00 – 8:30pm

Click here for all the details for Sensual Body Movement for Women

Details about Salsa for the Soul Classes:

  • 6 week sessions that build progressively each class
  • Payments made in full at the first class of each session, no refunds, cash please
  • Classes start promptly at times listed above
  • Location: Configuration Dance Theater, 230 Lexington Ave, Buffalo, NY 14222.  Entrance on the Ashland side of the building.
  • Singles welcome as we rotate partners
  • Please bring a clean pair of smooth soled shoes to dance in and/or a comfortable pair of socks.  (No black or dark brown soled shoes with rubber bottoms that could scuff the floor.)
  • Wear comfortable clothing

PRE-REGISTER by emailing Sarah at salsaforthesoul@gmail.com now!

Space Limited-Register TODAY!

Location: Configuration Dance Studio 230 Lexington Ave. Buffalo, NY 14222, On the corner of Lexington and Ashland.  Entrance on Ashland

Salsa for the Soul Classes focus on teaching you how to:

  • Find and Feel the rhythm in Latin music
  • Dance in time with the music
  • Lead and follow with great technique so you can dance with anyone around the world!
  • Move your body in the style of Latin dancing
  • Solo with shines and fancy footwork during song breaks
  • Turn properly and with good technique
  • Feel your body and connect with your body so you feel good while dancing
  • Enjoy the feeling, rhythm and timing of Latin dancing
  • Have fun while dancing within yourself, with your partner and the world around you

I also encourage you to become a part of our Facebook community, a space where you will have access to interviews and posts about amazing Latin dance teachers and be able to connect with fellow salsa dancers.  Click here to like my Salsa for the Soul Facebook page and get connected!

More Info:

We teach L.A. on1 style of salsa dancing, Cuban style, and N.Y. Mambo on2 shines, which add more flare and flavor to your social dancing. 

Singles welcome, partners rotate during class.  

Before taking the Intermediate level class, you must take one Beginner session or more with Salsa for the Soul (handled on a case by case basis).  

Couples welcome who want to dance with each other solely.

Soul Conversation with Sarah featuring Dr. Shelly Batra of Operation Asha

Dear Reader, Listener and Fellow Inspirator~

Today is the launch of a special interview I had the pleasure of doing with Dr. Shelly Batra of Operation Asha.

Dr. Shelly’s mission is to eradicate TB from India and in this interview she talks about her mission and goal, the people who actually inspire HER work, and what we can all do to support a TB free world!

Click the play button above to watch this inspiring and moving interview now.

What moves you in this interview to take on a mission as big as Dr. Shelly’s?

Share you comments directly below the post!

Click here to go to Shelly’s website and learn more about Operation Asha. Donate to this great cause and see the world around you change instantly!

Love and Light, Sarah

7 Day Song Challenge #2 Day 7!!!: It’s the First Day of the Last Day

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Hey All!

 

WE MADE IT!  Day 7 of the 7 Day Song Challenge!  Hollar, hollar, hollar!!!

 

Yes, this is IT: Click here to listen now.

 

What does this song mean to you?

 

Share your comments below the song, click here and listen now!

 

Thanks for joining us on this journey and stay tuned for the next Song Challenge where you can join us and share the improvisational songs that are coming through you!

 

Woohoo.

 

Blessings I-ternal,

 

Sarah

7 Day Song Challenge #2 Day 6: It’s OK

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Hey All~

Yah, today it was sunny and cold and some things were moving through the energy waves and this song is what came out tonight!

Click here to listen to “It’s OK” now!

InJoy and leave your comments below!

What good can you see in a situation your in that you may be tired of?

Click here to listen to this improvisational track now!

Love, Sarah